I’m always kind to everyone I meet, I always make people laugh and smile and make sure people feel comfortable around me, I continuously go out of my way to do good for others. But do you know what? It’s exhausting being nice…
There is only so much one person can take.
When someone gives you a compliment you should thank them; when someone lets you borrow something you should give it back; if someone goes out of their way to try and be kind to you – you should acknowledge it. Manners cost nothing. Kindness goes a long way. And life is far too short to be bitter, jealous and quite frankly: up your own ass 24/7.
This post has been brewing for a while but a handful of events have occurred recently and provoked the need to write this post. I am fed up of allowing people to make me feel sh*t purely because I’ve tried to do something decent for someone else. Why do we help people when it results in us getting hurt and upset? Why do selfless people not put themselves first for a change? I don’t know why I ask myself these questions as I am yet to find an answer. I need to suppress myself from trying to keep everyone happy constantly. I’m so worried about letting people down all the time that I keep letting myself down by helping them.
I’m not saying every act of kindness is futile or unacknowledged; I’m just stating that sometimes you just need to realise that you can’t help out everyone and shouldn’t feel obliged to say ‘yes’ all the time. It’s OK to say no. I’ve realised that lately.
In education, further education, the workplace, clubs, parties, events, communities – absolutely everywhere you go you will stumble across some ‘bad eggs’. There is not one place I have ever been where it has been free of negative people: people who revel in seeing others miserable, people who get jealous when you’re succeeding and gaining opportunities that they’re not, people who don’t put effort in and don’t turn up and yet expect to get special treatment when they do…I’m over it. I’m done. Why should we bend over backwards, us commendable goodhearted people, when it goes unnoticed and just ends up making us feel miserable?
In a nutshell, what I am trying to say is this, do not let people take advantage of your kind nature. Please don’t feel like it’s your responsibility to please everyone. Don’t let yourself be put in a position where you say yes when you desperately just wanted to say no.
An act of kindness can go a long way. You have the ability to make someone’s day and make them feel wonderful with just small gestures; you do not need to put yourself out just to please somebody else. Put yourself first. Please yourself.
Even the nicest people have their limits.
Until next time
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