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This week is #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek; You have probably seen numerous blog posts all about it and seen the hashtag on your timeline front, left and centre. But isn’t that the way it should always be? We should always be encouraging people to openly talk about their mental health.

For those of you who suffer from Mental Health issues, I bet you wish that the society we live in was always as responsive and supportive as it is right now, during this awareness week. I am wholeheartedly all for Mental Health Awareness and I think this week is a step in the right direction. I just can’t help feeling like next week, or the week after, I’m going to be down in the dumps and nobody is going to care. Nobody will notice. Nobody will be encouraging me to speak out. I don’t know. Perhaps that’s just the mind of a Depressive.

I feel like the world that we live in is starting to do more about Mental Health and is attempting to reach out to vulnerable people but will it ever be as accepted as physical health? (I’m genuinely curious to know what you all think about this so please pop me a response in the comments)!

I want to share a personal snippet from my life with you all, it’s a long story really, but I’ll cut it short (as this could lead to a whole other blog post in itself):

My mother, the loveliest and kindest soul you could ever meet, was diagnosed with Cancer last year. Breast Cancer. It was totally unexpected. Needless to say it broke my heart. I very seldom shed a tear in anyone’s company but that day I cried in my mother’s arms and couldn’t fight back the tears. It was soul-destroying. She got through it – WE got through it together as a family unit. Mum, Dad, my brother and I. The immediate family. Of course aunties and cousins and people who hadn’t spoke to my mum in ages were calling up: asking how mum was, saying they would be there, did she need anything etc? Everyone was there. Everyone cared. Now here is where I am going with this…

Mum was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder when I was in my early years of primary school. She was in and out of hospital; Almost wasn’t allowed out for her Wedding day. It’s been tough. She lost her job. She had two young kids. The pressure was on my Dad. It was a real shock. It was tough. Over the years Mum has had breakdowns, down days, too much medication, not enough medication and so on and so forth. Sometimes, people who are meant to be close to my mum call her up and ask her how she’s doing? Mum will say ‘not too good, I’ve been feeling a bit down today’ and they brush it off. Move on to another subject. Completely dismiss this. WHY? This is what I am getting at. Why are physical elements always treated so differently from Mental Health?

I am in no way, shape or form comparing Cancer to Mental Health. That’s not what I’m doing here. Here’s another example. Now and again I take to Twitter or Facebook to portray my emotions and I try and open up about what is going on in my head. On several occasions I have been called out for ‘attention seeking’ or ‘moaning’ etc. But it’s perfectly normal to share that you’ve broke a bone or banged your foot but it’s not OK to tell people how you’re feeling? Again. I don’t know. This is just my thoughts.

#MentalHealthAwarenessWeek is a good thing. It is. I think it’s wonderful that people are writing blog posts about it, sharing their thoughts and feelings with friends and followers, using the hashtag, raising awareness in all different ways – I just would love, love, love for people to keep this up all year round. It would be so heartening to come on to social media every day and know what someone gets it. That someone is always going to be there to support you. That people understand. You know?

The next time someone phones you and tells you they are feeling a bit blue: acknowledge it. Please. Ask them if they want to talk about it? Ask them if they maybe want to do something? Or just let them know that you are there if they need you to be. It’s not much to ask. And it makes such a difference. Believe me.

Keep using the hashtag everyone, read the blog posts that you see on your timeline, respond to people’s tweets when they pluck up the courage to speak out about what’s on their mind – you can make such a difference without even knowing or realising it!

Lots of love

Charlene McElhinney


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  1. Aqy
    May 11, 2017 / 3:54 am

    I love this so much. How appropriate it is for me to start feeling a little depressed again on mental health awareness week haha. Most people would want others to know what they’re going through, but I don’t. I’d rather keep all my problems to myself because I don’t want to burden anyone. I know it’s bad, but this is where the part of you saying “The next time someone phones you and tells you they are feeling a bit blue: acknowledge it. Please. Ask them if they want to talk about it? Ask them if they maybe want to do something? Or just let them know that you are there if they need you to be. It’s not much to ask. And it makes such a difference. Believe me.” Comes in. It’s so true. I do want people that I care about to ask me how I’m doing and actually listen.

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  2. May 11, 2017 / 4:29 am

    Thank you so much Charlene for sharing this very personal blogpost with us. It only shows how brave you are and that you are a great mental health advocate. Mental health, is health too and should be treated like that. I have shed a tear reading this, as it really moved me to read you personal story, but again; you are so so strong.
    It’s so important to raise more and more awareness for mental health and reduce stigma. – It’s not easy talking about our mental problems, I’m so glad you did. Love you buddy

  3. May 11, 2017 / 10:35 am

    This is so important that we speak out about this! Speaking out about your mum must have been tough, but you’ve done so well! I don’t think mental health should be treated any different to a physical injury, in fact I think it should be treated with more care.

    Tasha x


  4. May 11, 2017 / 7:49 pm

    You are so brave for writing about this. And I really agree that it is great that this week #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek is getting so much attention, but it is something that shouldn’t just last for a week. There is a negative stigma attached to mental health which is wrong, but brave people like you speaking out can only go towards helping others in a similar position and hopefully breakdown those barriers of the stigma. Thank you.

  5. May 11, 2017 / 8:38 pm

    You are so brave sharing your story.
    I’m going through something similar at the moment, and have written such a heartfelt post but I can’t publish it. It’s just too raw at the moment.
    Thank you for sharing x

  6. May 13, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    This is such a great post. The more that we start to treat mental illness like physical illness, the better. I love your advice – we definitely shouldn’t brush off when someone is feeling down. Well done for sharing!

    Lisa | farawaylisamae.com

  7. May 14, 2017 / 12:53 pm

    Love seeing all these posts for mental health awareness week, it’s so nice to see everyone’s stories. Thanks for sharing about your Mom, there’s still so much stigma around mental health.

  8. May 14, 2017 / 4:25 pm

    Really great post Charlene, you are really brave. I agree, mental health should be acknowledge more and it’s great that so many people believe so too. I am always here to support you and anyone else who suffers from a mental health problem.
    I hope you’re well sweet,

    Tab x

  9. May 14, 2017 / 8:45 pm

    I have so much respect for you my lovely. You are so open and this post was written beautifully! You are so brave! You are so strong, please know I am always here for you and so are the amazing people around you.

    Steph xx

    Steph’s World | Lifestyle Blog | http://www.stephsworld.com

  10. Kayleigh Zara
    May 19, 2017 / 2:53 am

    I’ve read this a couple of times since you’ve posted it and I just understand this so much. thankyou for sharing x

    Kayleigh Zara

  11. May 19, 2017 / 6:09 pm

    I definitely agree with your point that mental health is often not taken as seriously as physical health, it’s so ridiculous because really, what’s the difference? If someone is mentally unwell, they’re just as deserving of love, kindness and support as someone who has a broken leg, for instance! It is through talking about it openly online as you do that helps dispel the stigma about MH and encourages others to be more open minded! Good on you for posting this, as always I have full respect and support for you!

    Abbey ❤️

  12. July 28, 2017 / 5:38 pm

    Hi Charlene, I totally agree that mental health is treated differently to physical health, I also agree that although I do feel more is being done to break the stigma, it needs to keep being spoken about, stories shared and awareness raised all year round. Great post, thank you for sharing x

  13. March 30, 2018 / 11:23 pm

    Love this post. It’s really heartfelt but it’s so important. Mental health is just as important as physical health and we need more people to realise that. Wishing your mum the best!

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