Am I even a blogger?


Am I even a blogger?

This post has been brewing for quite some time now; I keep asking myself if I am actually worthy of the title ‘blogger’. I scroll down my social media feed day in and day out and see a plethora of individuals knocking the ball right out of the park and absolutely smashing it and I sit at the other end of my screen wishing that was me.

Wishing I could up my photography game. Wishing I had a schedule and regularly stuck to it. Wishing I could religiously schedule tweets and posts without just going through phases. Wishing my content was original, unique, exciting, more ‘bloggery’. My blog is like an online journal – I don’t have a niche – I don’t write about anything in particular. One day, I’ll be writing a book review (or attempting to) and the next day I’m talking about getting my lady region waxed. One day I’m writing about my life and what I’ve been up to and the next I’m talking about my non-existent life and what I’m not up to. I don’t know. I sometimes just wish I had a niche. I write about my mind and my battle with Depression and Anxiety sometimes. Does that make me a Mental Health blogger? I write about going to the gym from time to time. Does that make me a fitness blogger? What am I and where do I fit in?

I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere. It sucks. It’s disheartening. I’m constantly seeing bloggers excelling and being nominated for awards front, left and centre and don’t get me wrong, I revel in the success of others, and I’m genuinely happy to see my fellow blogger buddies getting the recognition they deserve but I just feel like a spare part.

Why am I not getting any recognition? Why do I never seem to progress or go anywhere? When will I fit in? When will I grow? Am I just overthinking?

My mind is buzzing with so many ideas; I just never see them through. I let myself down. And then I bring myself down. It’s a vicious circle and when will I ever escape it?

I love the blogging community. I don’t actually know where I’d be without it now that I’m a part of it. I just wish I was a more pivotal part of it.



  1. September 22, 2017 / 9:56 pm

    My blog is totally the same but I think it just reflects the uniqueness and variety of YOU! You’re not just about fitness, you’re not just about mental health, you blog about all parts of you – and that’s natural and amazing. It’s ok if your blog can’t be categorized because sometimes categorization is just reductionist & might get boring if you stick to one thing constanly. As a reader, and a blogger, I am interested in all different aspects of someones life, ideas and motivations because it reflects the whole person behind the blog. As for schedules: if you can stick to one great! For me, the rest of my life is scheduled to a T so its nice to have my blog as a free, sometimes sporadic and messy outlet. A relief.

    Just be you – no one can ask for or want anything more 🙂

  2. sunshinesarahxo
    September 23, 2017 / 12:08 pm

    You are you babe and that’s all that matters.. Don’t worry about not fitting in babe your blog is amazing so please don’t be disheartened Charlene. As for your Instagram it reflects you & your life so don’t ever feel like your photography isn’t as good as someone else’s!
    I love you & your blog Charlene so pls don’t ever give up.
    Love you
    Sarah xxxxx

  3. September 24, 2017 / 9:55 am

    Girl don’t be disheartened. We all feel like that sometimes but you need to remember you blog is yours, you don’t need a niche if you don’t want one – you can call
    Yourself whatever you like because you are doing you and that’s all matters!

    Focus on what you love and let it all fall into place!

    Jessica & James | /

  4. September 25, 2017 / 8:32 am

    I feel this 100%. As I don’t really have a niche, I don’t feel like I could ever be voted for an award. It’s so disheartening when you’re working so hard on your blog, but no one seems to notice. But trust me, I love your blog and how it’s so varied in content, it’s just like real life! Hang in there girl X
    Hayley x

  5. September 27, 2017 / 8:56 am

    Awww Charlene, it makes me so sad to see you feeling this way! You definitely are a blogger – just because you do things a little differently doesn’t mean you’re wrong! I too write about the randomest mix of things, I don’t really fit into a niche and while this did worry me for a start, now I just embrace it! You do all the important things right – you talk about things you’re passionate about, you’re an active and chatty member of the community, your blog is always full of new and interesting content, I would be so proud to have your blog, and I think you should be too! Don’t compare yourself to others because there’s only one Charlene McElhinney in this world and she is FANTASTIC – you stand out for all the right reasons so don’t feel downhearted!

    Abbey ❤️

  6. September 28, 2017 / 9:57 am

    Every blogger goes through these thoughts. I started with an online journal and slowly have found my way. I still don’t have a niche but that is not in anyway less. Blog from your heart and things will follow. Love!

  7. theadequatewife
    September 28, 2017 / 12:54 pm

    I feel you. I’m new to the blogging world but definitely don’t feel I’ve really found my niche even though I’d love to.

  8. September 28, 2017 / 1:02 pm

    Absolutely love this post! Exactly how I feel about my place in the blogging world! Xx

  9. December 24, 2017 / 4:40 pm

    You are a blogger and a great one too. I like the variety on your blog and the way you write in engaging. Don’t be too disheartened because you haven’t been nominated for any awards. You work hard and I believe your time will come soon. You are also a pivotal part of the blogging community because without people,like you, the blogging community simply doesn’t exist. Wishing you well!

  10. December 24, 2017 / 4:44 pm

    You are an amazing blogger. I love the variety you have on you blog and the way you write is engaging. Don’t be too disheartened that you haven’t been nominated for any awards because I believe your time will come. You are a pivotal member of the blogging community because without people like you, the blogging community would not exist!

  11. January 4, 2018 / 8:33 pm

    I felt sad when I read this… partly because I can identify with you and partly because no one should feel like they don’t ‘fit in’.

    You write.
    You make blogs.
    You have a blog.
    You are a blogger, simple as.

    So you don’t have a niche… do you have to? Why should you? The way I see it, you’re not boxed and limited to one topic, you can write about whoever or whatever you want and when you want.

    You are a great blogger, you are a part of the community and what you do is pivotal… please don’t allow yourself to feel unworthy by the pressures of social media’s and what other people can do xx

  12. March 1, 2018 / 10:28 pm

    First of all: same. Second of all: I don’t know what to do about it either. As many comments say above me, it’s important to ‘do you’ and -I think- have fun with it and try to push yourself further. Which is OBVIOUSLY easier said than done. Or thought. However, as these comments also show, it’s not always about needing to fit in to be appreciated. This appreciation may not be an award, but knowing that at least someone read your words, thought about it and left a comment should hopefully sooth the pain a little. *gives a pat on the back* 😉


  13. July 31, 2018 / 10:24 am

    Hey Charlene

    Randomly found this post on twitter but I wanted to share some encouragement with you. There’s nothing wrong with not having a typical or rigid niche. Your blog seems to be a little like mine in the sense that you just share your thoughts and talk about your life and personal experiences. It’s lifestyle. I personally don’t really care for reading cliche content from people, I much prefer honesty and content that is relatable, so keep it up! You’re doing great. Just focus on creating better content than *you* created yesterday, not anyone else xxx

    Wunms –

  14. September 24, 2018 / 4:27 pm

    If you have a blog you’re a blogger. Do not consider yourself to be any less. You will get to that point where you will be able to achieve what other bloggers are achieving. Maybe focus on your niche and then you will feel more secure. I honestly think it’s great that you have different things to talk about on your blog because people can come to your blog for anything. If have 10 different niches so what at least you show versatility. It’s okay to admire people but never down play your success. Blogging is hard work your time will come you may just have a little more to learn. Stay positive and keep going .

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