Upping a size; Upping my confidence.


Is that girl in the photos really me? Hell yeah, it is!

Today I stepped out of my comfort zone, not only with my style, but with my sizing too. I’ll get in to all of that in a minute. Firstly, I just want to declare how unmitigatedly firece I felt in today’s outfit. It was a step out of my comfort zone, but a step in to my zone. This is the style I want to embrace on a daily basis. This is the style I’ve always wanted to sport but never had the confidence to. This is who I want to be; this is who I am.


I had an epiphany the other day when I was online shopping; in actual fact I had this moment of realization a long time ago but I hadn’t done anything about it. All of my clothes are between sizes 8-10 and I’ve always felt so determined to stay this size. But why? 


Why put superfluous and unnecessary pressure on myself to stay within a size that I am not comfortable in? Just because I’m scared of change. Perhaps. But is it worth it? Not at all. I decided to do some shopping and size UP – for the first time in my life. I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. I’m sick of buying clothes labelled size ‘8-10’ and squeezing myself in to them and not feeling comfortable (I’m not saying that all of my clothes don’t fit me – but the majority of them aren’t snug and comfortable).


I placed myself a huge order on Boohoo, ordering only size 12s. I was flabbergasted when I noticed that the majority of their size 12 ranges were titled ‘plus’ size. 12 isn’t ‘plus’; I would have said 12 was average? And anyway, why does every size need to be defined? So I placed my order, embracing my new ‘plus’ size, and I admired the models on the screen in front of me who were labelled ‘plus size models’. They looked just like me. They looked…normal? Why give them a definition? Then you have a range for tall people, petite people and so on and so forth and I’m thinking to myself: Why couldn’t I have just been a man? They don’t need to worry about all of this sizing palava, they just take a S, M, L and boom there’s your dinner! Us girls have to endure so much stress and pressure when picking out clothes for ourselves; unneccesary stress that society has burdened us with. I digress.


My clothes arrived and damn, I felt fierce! I was 100000% feeling myself (as you can probably tell from the pictures). I had pushed myself out of my comfort zone, ordering clothes I always lust over but would never have the courage to buy because I’d never have the balls to wear them, yet here I am! They were all size 12s and they fit me like a glove. Perfect. Does anyone care what size I am? Not one little bit. So why worry about it all these years? Who gives a damn? Certainly not me… not anymore!



This is where I stop giving a damn about what other people, and society, think of me. This is where I start posting pictures I wouldn’t normally, dressing differently and daringly, pushing the boat out further and further until finally I’m out at sea and am no longer afraid of the sharks or the currents. This is my revelation.

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JACKET: Boohoo £24

TOP: Boohoo £8

JEANS: TK Maxx £19.99

SHOES: New Look £15

Charlene McElhinney.






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EMAIL: charlenemcelhinney@icloud.com




  1. sunshinesarahxo
    October 1, 2017 / 11:43 am

    Wowzers!!! Charlene you look fierce! I am LOVING this new look on you!!! Damn girl!!!
    So so pleased you have stepped out of your comfort zone here the result is one hot looking lady! 🔥
    You have definitely inspired me to change & push my own boundaries! I love love love these photos! My God Charlz, you are one fine looking lady!! ❤❤
    Love you so so much!!! 💋😍
    Sarah Xoxo

  2. October 1, 2017 / 3:26 pm

    You look terrific Charlene, a beautiful confident woman is emanating from those pics!

  3. October 1, 2017 / 7:38 pm

    Being the first post I have read of yours I am extremely glad it was one of utmost positivity. You bring up an incredible number of important topics which some are extremely fearful of – size. And with that being said, I would hope this post reaches a great deal more people – primarily women.

    You haven’t left your comfort zone. You’ve abandoned the idea of a comfort zone and broken down your own barriers to acceptance.

    Call it cliché but, Size Is Just a Number. And I don’t feel that any, number, classification, or “plus”wording of the sort should define one’s thoughts towards what they choose to wear.

    As long as you look and feel good in whatever it is you wear, then that’s all what should matter. And if the photos above hold any truth then you are incredibly beautiful. And not one of pictures waved a “Size 8, 10, 12” label above them for me to see that.

    Great blog.

  4. October 1, 2017 / 8:07 pm

    It’s so liberating when you let go of the pressure of being a certain size and actually buy clothes that fit. I hope this post helps people who are still struggling with that dilemma.

    You look great regardless of your size, we all do.

    V <3

  5. October 1, 2017 / 8:55 pm

    What shocked me recently was that a size 16 in some shops was the same size as a size 12 in others! Women’s clothing sizes are so out there. I’m back down to a size 14 in some of my older clothes, but still need a size 20 in other clothes – it just doesn’t make sense! But I’m delighted you’re feeling so much more confident! And girl you look amazing!!!

  6. October 2, 2017 / 1:23 pm

    You look amazing and ooze confidence.
    Women’s sizes are arbitrary – the numbers literally don’t correlate to anything, allowing brands to randomly decide what their sizing is.
    And who cares what number is printed on the label, as long as you feel good in what you wear.

  7. October 2, 2017 / 3:06 pm

    You look absolutely amazing. I’m so glad to hear you’re feeling confident! It’s so nice to read posts about people loving/embracing their bodies. You look stunning and I’m so glad you feel it.

  8. chasingmydesire
    October 4, 2017 / 6:06 pm

    You look incredible. I definitely agree that a 12 is not plus size and I don’t understand how we are supposed to be empowering women but still put a label on them because they are not smaller sizes!

    Abigail | chasingmydesire.com

  9. October 4, 2017 / 6:07 pm

    I love this post and I love these photos! You look so confident and fierce! Such an inspiration!

  10. October 4, 2017 / 6:14 pm

    You look gorgeous! 12 is definitely not plus size! Feeling good and pushing boundaries is so important 🙂

  11. October 4, 2017 / 6:18 pm

    Brilliant blog. Amazing photos. Pretty fine looking forklift 😂😉I kid. Seriously you look amazing. And I wish more girls would accept and embrace who they are in stead of trying to be what is deemed acceptable. Well done Charlene 😊

  12. October 4, 2017 / 6:21 pm

    This post made me absolutely, deliriously delighted, because I can FEEL how fierce you feel when I look at these incredible photos, and I’m so happy that you’re letting go of the focus on what size you’re clothes are. Nobody knows what your tag says but you, and it doesn’t matter anyway!! Better to feel good in what you’re wearing than let some arbitrary number mess with your head. YAY CHARLENE!!


  13. Kayleigh Zara
    October 4, 2017 / 6:35 pm

    You look absolutely stunning girl! I totally understand what you mean I’ve previously bought clothes that aren’t the right size because I didn’t want to size up when there is really nothing wrong with sizing up at all! Really love the shoes x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿www.kayleighzaraa.com

  14. October 4, 2017 / 6:51 pm

    Yessss! You look amazing and I’m so glad you see that too! Confidence is so important and this post is so inspiring. Keep on pushing your boundaries because it’s definitely working – you’re glowing in all of those photos! X

  15. October 4, 2017 / 6:52 pm

    I am loving this post! It’s great that you are feeling confident and stepping out of your comfort zone. Definitely need to take some tips from your book. 🙂

  16. October 4, 2017 / 6:54 pm

    Great blog post. Stepping out of your comfort zone is obviously the right thing for you to have done, You look and sound like you’ve gained a lot of confidence from doing so.


  17. Tia
    October 4, 2017 / 7:18 pm

    🔥🔥🔥 you look amazing!!!! Yes mamè!!! Great post on confidence and embracing yourself

  18. October 5, 2017 / 7:06 pm

    You looked so hot! Owning your look, being confident and embracing your size…that’s fierce! You and I have similar taste, this style is something I would totally wear but been too shy to do so. Great motivational post 😄

  19. October 5, 2017 / 7:08 pm

    You looked so hot! Owning your look, being confident and embracing your size…that’s fierce! You and I have similar taste, this style is something I would totally wear but been too shy to do so. Great motivational post 😄 Thanks for sharing your style and story with us.

  20. Ella Ames
    October 17, 2017 / 11:17 pm

    Go you!! Clothes always look the best when you feel on point, and you’re rocking it! Do the jeans have fishnets in them, or did you add them underneath? I love them!!

  21. October 25, 2017 / 9:19 am

    You look FANTASTIC and I’m so happy for you feeling like you’ve stepped into a whole new zone and are feeling fabulous about it. You’re seriously looking super gorgeous and I also have major hair envy! x x
    Ellis // http://www.elliswoolley.co.uk

  22. December 8, 2017 / 8:31 am

    Go you! I think you look fabbity fab fab fab. More than fabulous–you look fierce, and I love it! ♥

  23. December 13, 2017 / 5:39 pm

    I hope this post encourages more people to be content with the way they look!

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