Dear Christmas Shoppers – Blogmas Day 11

Dear Christmas shoppers,

The world is not about to end. It really isn’t. It wouldn’t kill you to show some kindness to your fellow shoppers instead of barging past them and acting like you have more of a right to be there than anyone else. I guess we are all guilty of it at some point in our lives. Shopping can be a right pain in the backside – especially at X-mas time! But do you ever stop to think about who you’re budging out of the way and what goes through their mind when you do so?

Damn, the thought of my wee naïve mum out and about doing her shopping, and someone disregarding her and barging past her like she’s nothing really grinds my gears. When you put it in to perspective and imagine it’s someone close to you – it’s not a nice thought. Then there’s the anxious folk, the people who exceedingly hate to shop, who are there just because they have to be. They get flustered when someone stands near them, they start to think they are in the way, that they need to move and go to another rail. They get all sweaty and worked up. They don’t like to be rushed, to have their space invaded, to feel like they are a burden. Y’know, it wouldn’t do any harm to respect other folk when you’re out and about shopping. Be patient. Like I said: The world is not about to end.


Is there anything worse than when you’re admiring a nice little top on the rail and checking the size etc. and then some numpty just crosses right over you and takes over the space and starts rummaging through like there’s no tomorrow, complete ignorance, as if you weren’t even there? Rude. Then there’s the ones who speak to staff with attitude and disrespect; especially in retail. I worked in retail at Christmas last year and the way customers spoke to me was abhorrent.

Then of course you’ve got the slow walkers, the over-takers who come out of nowhere and start zig-zagging all over the shop thinking they are doing good but really they are causing an uproar for the busy crowds of folk walking around them, then you’ve got the kids running away from parents, the people with a shit ton of bags hitting you with them as they abruptly brush past, the over-crowded queues with the huffing and puffing of impatient shoppers, the staff approaching you and trying to sell you this, that and the next thing with great big desperate cheesy grins on their faces…it’s a stressful time for everyone. That’s for sure.

But next time you’re in the shops please be mindful of the others around you. Today, I was in a shopping centre, and I was a zig-zagger. Guilty. Upon reflection, I must have really agitated a lot of people, and I must have come across as either rude or a woman on a mission (which I was – to get out of that damn place ASAP). Seriously though, next time you’re out doing your shopping, look around you. Really look. And ask yourself, does anyone really want to be here at this time of year? We’re all going through the same thing. We all have that in common. Just be mindful, Christmas shoppers, we are all in the same boat.

Until tomorrow,

Charlene McElhinney






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  1. December 11, 2017 / 1:26 pm

    Great post! I recently posted about something similar; as someone with Aspergers, I really dislike Christmas shopping! Thank you for being very vocal about this x

  2. December 11, 2017 / 2:36 pm

    THIS! YES!!! Shops are a nightmare at this time of year both for shoppers and staff, so all it takes is a few seconds to remember that in fact probably none of us want to be there. Shopping stresses me out so much, so I tend to go in the middle of the day midweek, but these next 2 weeks don’t actually have a safe time to go shopping. All it takes is a little consideration towards others. And you know what? Smile at the person serving you! It costs nothing and can actually brighten their day if you just be nice

  3. December 11, 2017 / 6:28 pm

    YES Charlene, I love this. I’m an anxious shopper, I hate it. I get really sweaty and nervous and have twice fainted due to over-crowding and being pushed around. I’m always mind-full of others but that seems to back fire and I get barged. I tried Christmas Eve shopping once and had to remove myself from the store without even paying for the items I was holding, I just got so caught up in the noise and the speed of everyone else I panicked. This is a great post! xx

  4. December 11, 2017 / 11:32 pm

    I detest shopping at any time of year, but Christmas has to be the worst. Because I have to walk slow, I get so anxious and self aware of my slow pace, that it gets me so upset. I feel like a burden and a nuisance to everyone!

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