Will I ever dance again? – Blogmas Day 17

Is it too late to start dancing again?

All through my childhood I religiously went to dance classes; I can’t actually remember when I stopped. Probably when life got in the way. Probably when I joined gymnastics, swimming lessons, basketball, drama and other clubs. I wanted to try different things. Dancing took a back seat. I wish I had never given it up.

When you stop doing something, it takes a hell of a lot to get back in to it again, especially as you get older. You think that turning up at a dance class or a club or whatever is going to be a pretty big fucking deal. You think everyone is going to judge you or laugh at you because you’re not as flexible, you don’t know any of the moves and you just generally don’t know a damn thing anymore. You would be starting all over again. Baby steps. At 21 years old. You’ve not got the body you once had, you’ve aged, gained weight and you are like a fish out of water. You’re completely out of your depth and how could you possibly throw yourself in the deep end like that? Can you?

I’m writing this post, first and foremost, to get it off my chest. I’m writing this post because I want to hear if anyone else took up dancing in their 20s and felt completely out of their comfort zone but stuck at it and fell in love with dancing all over again? I’m writing this post because it’s good to get things out there, right? Sometimes reaching out, dipping your toes in the water, is the motivation and kick up the arse you need to do what you need to do. And I need to dance again.

I don’t know what form of dancing I’d like to get in to. I did a little bit of everything, growing up. When I’m on a night out with my friends I just love to dance. I don’t start busting moves that would impress anyone but I love to close my eyes, move my body, and work up a sweat. I like to lose myself to music. That’s dancing, right? So why am I so scared to turn up at a class and get the ball rolling again. What am I scared of?

Well, not being able to dance. That’s a given. I’m scared of other people watching, judging and mocking. I’m scared of not being as good as the others. I’m scared of making a fool out of myself. I’m scared to dance again.

Oh, but I so badly want to dance again. I keep telling myself I’ll do it and I never do. Time is getting on and I keep beating myself up about it. Please share your stories with me. Please tell me if there’s something you decided to do at a later stage in your life, even though you were shit scared, and tell me why you’re glad you did it. If you know a friend who started dance classes in their 20s or older please, please, please get them to reach out to me. Any words of wisdom or inspiration or advice would be greatly appreciated. Especially because it’s nearly a new year and that could be the perfect time to set myself a new goal. A resolution. Let’s do this.

Will I ever dance again?

Charlene McElhinney






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Email: charlenemcelhinney@icloud.com


PHOTO CREDIT: To Simon John, who took these photos of me at the Miss Glasgow final.



  1. December 18, 2017 / 12:42 pm

    I stopped figure skating at 12ish as it became ‘uncool’ and I spent most my time training and competing, and i regret it so much! I always imagine how different my life would be (in good and bad ways) If I carried it on. I get what you mean about seeming too old, but what I would say is that you’re the youngest now that you’ll ever be again, and in 10 years you’ll be licking yourself for not doing it now, so go for it!
    Clo xx


  2. December 18, 2017 / 9:44 pm

    You should totally start dancing again. Maybe you should join a few Zumba classes first to get a feel for it again and work up a good sweat. Everyone starts as a fish out of water whether you’re starting from scratch or stepping into it again. I hope you do put dancing again on your new years resolution. ♡ ♥ ♡

  3. December 19, 2017 / 8:58 am

    Get dancing! I took up ballet at the not so young age of 23. At 30, I’ve only stopped temporarily because of pregnancy/baby, and before that I was taking three classes a week. It has changed my life for the better – I love being able to focus entirely on what my body is doing, and switch off my anxious brain. I can’t wait to get back to it!

  4. December 20, 2017 / 12:30 pm

    Oh lovely, it’s never too late! I have danced my whole life, but I gave it up when I went to uni last year and I regret it so so so much. I still go back sometimes when I’m home, but I wish I didn’t have to leave. Like you, I’m scared of going somewhere new, but I really would love to dance again! Maybe something like Zumba could be good? I don’t know!
    Hayley X

  5. January 5, 2018 / 3:40 pm

    I really hope you start dancing! I was about 6 or 7 when I started Ballroom, Latin, Disco and Formation, then stopped for 20 years! I’ve been back at it 9 years and I absolutely love it!! xx

  6. miriamkaulbarsch
    October 26, 2018 / 8:04 am

    At 27 I started Pole Dance – I never danced before, I never went to any fitness clubs, I was doing at home fitness but yeah. It’s been two years and it changed me for the better. Go and dance!

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