#JoinIn on Christmas Day



Christmas isn’t a joyful time for everyone. Many people feel alone and/or miserable during the festive season for a variety of reasons; even those surrounded by family and friends can feel totally bemused inside and yet put on a party hat and go along with the festivities for other people’s sake. I just wanted to write this post because over the past few years I have fell out of love with Christmas and I find it an extremely difficult time of the year. I can’t wait for it all to be over. And I’m not alone.

Many people feel like this on Christmas day and I just want you all to know that there’s a safe space for us all to come together. There are many safe spaces and I want you all to familiarize yourself with them in case you feel like you need them. They are available to anyone who feels lonely, vulnerable, miserable, deflated or just needs a little pick me up or chat. We’re all here for you.


The hashtag #JoinIn was created by a woman called Sarah Millican who wanted to come up with something for us all to connect and come together when we are feeling alone on Christmas Day and I believe it is now used worldwide on other occasions too for the same reasons. It’s a great idea. Many of us find solace in strangers and it’s much easier to reach out to someone you don’t know than a bunch of family members sitting round a table judging you, scrutinizing you, waiting to pounce. Ok maybe not but that’s how it feels. Many of us find it easier to confide in others on the internet because there is no face-to-face communication and it’s easier to be open and honest when we aren’t intimidated. We have the ability to say what we want and the time and the space to say it. It’s a great thing. I love the twitter community for advice, encouragement and words of wisdom and the #JoinIn hashtag is definitely something I want to get involved in this year. I’ve never been involved in it before but for the past few Christmas’ I have felt completely and utterly alone. I will definitely be #JoiningIn this Christmas via Twitter. And you should too. Even just to pop by and say hello to others who are feeling aloof from all of the festivities and Christmas commotion.

Of course there are other outlets to reach out to if chatting on twitter isn’t your thing. There is always the Samaritans who are available to you 24/7 all year round. Yep, even on Christmas day, they are absolute angels. They are wonderful. You can call them on 116123 at any time and someone will be on the other end waiting to listen to you and talk to you and help you in whatever way they can. I have phoned the Samaritans before – not on Christmas day, right enough – but they were absolutely fantastic and it’s great to know they are always there. You can also email them at jo@samaritans.org and someone will be at the other end waiting for you this way too.

If you want to, you can reach out to me. You can hit me up on any of my social media platforms and I’ll have a chat with you. I promise you’re not alone. If you’re not enjoying Christmas, if you can’t wait for it to be over, that is perfectly OK. We’re here for you. I’m here for you. There are other people in the same boat. Let us in and let us help you. Don’t feel miserable alone; let us feel miserable with you.

I hope you all have a safe, content and enjoyable Christmas day and festive season in general. Always look after yourself. Put yourself first. Make time for self-care. If you need to go to your room for a bit, or have a bath, get away from it all – do it. If you want to sit on your phone in company, and #JoinIn or text your friends to take your mind away from it all, do it. And don’t feel bad. You’re perfectly entitled to. It’s your Christmas too.

All my love,

Charlene McElhinney







Email: charlenemcelhinney@icloud.com



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