I’ve been beating myself up a lot lately when I stay at home and do virtually nothing but I have come to the conclusion that we all need those days.
Sometimes we wake up and just the thought of facing the world is too much and we can’t bring ourselves to venture out so we stay at home. We stay in bed. We battle with our minds and tell ourselves that we should have went out, we should have been more productive. We spend the day sulking around the house wishing that we went to the gym, wishing that we just met up with our friends, wishing that we didn’t cancel plans, wishing that we did something more productive – we allow ourselves to think that we have wasted a day.
Well, I want to stress something to you all, and it’s absolutely imperative for you to let this sink in: days in are NOT wasted days. Not by a long shot. They are not wasted. They are necessary. They are important. They are just as valuable as any other day. We need days in to reflect, to gather our thoughts, to catch up with ourselves (sleeping, making time for self-care, watching shit TV, doing absolutely nada). It’s just as important to have days where we ‘do nothing’ as it is to do everything. Busy days are brilliant, don’t get me wrong, you feel like you’re on top of the world and that you’re a complete boss for achieving so much in one day. BUT we need time to wind down afterwards. We need time to just take in everything that is happening around us. We need time to relax and appreciate what’s ours. What’s the point in working your ass off if you’re unable to enjoy the fruits of your labour? That’s a whole other post in itself though.
Right now I just want to drill in to each and every one of you who are reading this post: days in are not wasted days. Please take note guys. I’ve spent far too long beating myself up about not getting out of bed, not washing my hair for days on end, having a pyjama day, not getting through my workload and what is the point? All it does is bring you down and make you feel shitty. You don’t deserve to feel shitty for something that’s completely natural. We have homes, beds, so we can relax and enjoy them. They are your safe-havens, your nest eggs, you should feel comfortable doing nothing in them. That’s what they are for. So please, don’t allow yourself to feel bad for staying in, it’s perfectly alright. Days in are not wasted days.
You come first. You are the most important person in your life; don’t prioritize everything else around you before you look after yourself. If you need a day in then take a day in. Please don’t feel any kind of guilt for taking a day to yourself, or two days, or a week – take the time you need because ultimately it’s your life. You know what is best for you and only you know what you need.