Days in are not wasted days

I’ve been beating myself up a lot lately when I stay at home and do virtually nothing but I have come to the conclusion that we all need those days.

Sometimes we wake up and just the thought of facing the world is too much and we can’t bring ourselves to venture out so we stay at home. We stay in bed. We battle with our minds and tell ourselves that we should have went out, we should have been more productive. We spend the day sulking around the house wishing that we went to the gym, wishing that we just met up with our friends, wishing that we didn’t cancel plans, wishing that we did something more productive – we allow ourselves to think that we have wasted a day.

Well, I want to stress something to you all, and it’s absolutely imperative for you to let this sink in: days in are NOT wasted days. Not by a long shot. They are not wasted. They are necessary. They are important. They are just as valuable as any other day. We need days in to reflect, to gather our thoughts, to catch up with ourselves (sleeping, making time for self-care, watching shit TV, doing absolutely nada). It’s just as important to have days where we ‘do nothing’ as it is to do everything. Busy days are brilliant, don’t get me wrong, you feel like you’re on top of the world and that you’re a complete boss for achieving so much in one day. BUT we need time to wind down afterwards. We need time to just take in everything that is happening around us. We need time to relax and appreciate what’s ours. What’s the point in working your ass off if you’re unable to enjoy the fruits of your labour? That’s a whole other post in itself though. 

Right now I just want to drill in to each and every one of you who are reading this post: days in are not wasted days. Please take note guys. I’ve spent far too long beating myself up about not getting out of bed, not washing my hair for days on end, having a pyjama day, not getting through my workload and what is the point? All it does is bring you down and make you feel shitty. You don’t deserve to feel shitty for something that’s completely natural. We have homes, beds, so we can relax and enjoy them. They are your safe-havens, your nest eggs, you should feel comfortable doing nothing in them. That’s what they are for. So please, don’t allow yourself to feel bad for staying in, it’s perfectly alright. Days in are not wasted days.

You come first. You are the most important person in your life; don’t prioritize everything else around you before you look after yourself. If you need a day in then take a day in. Please don’t feel any kind of guilt for taking a day to yourself, or two days, or a week – take the time you need because ultimately it’s your life. You know what is best for you and only you know what you need.



  1. March 28, 2018 / 11:07 am

    Sometimes I book a day iff work to just stay in and do nothing xx

  2. March 28, 2018 / 11:10 am

    This is so very true. I’ve had a couple of days like this recently and I came out of them feeling much better for it. I just let my mind process the emotions I was dealing with, let everything take it’s course, and then I felt more able to function “normally” (whatever that is!) the following day.

    Totally with you!

  3. March 29, 2018 / 7:49 am

    I’m totally with you on this one! I think half the time, those of us who are hard on ourselves for taking a day or two to relax are those who are most productive on other days, and therefore in most need of a break! It’s so important to recognise that we can’t be go-getters every single day – and that recharging our batteries is more beneficial in the long run xx

  4. March 29, 2018 / 12:13 pm

    I totally agree. I don’t think any day is wasted really, as long as you’re doing what you feel you need to be doing for your body, mind and soul on that particular day. And some days, that just means sitting in bed, watching Netflix or playing The Sims for 8 hours solid. And that’s fine! Great post, as always! xxx

  5. March 29, 2018 / 3:33 pm

    I used to always feel so guilty about the morning days. It’s hard not too when there is so much to do and also, so much to see in the world. As I’ve got older, I’ve really learnt to appreciate them and see them in a positive light because if nothing else, they’ve always been great for my mental health.

    Steph x

  6. _findingkate_
    March 29, 2018 / 8:36 pm

    Sometimes I feel really guilty when I have a lie in and Im pottering round on Pinterest at 11am having not gotten out of bed… But you’re SO right – days in are totally not days wasted! Days in are not wasted days – I love that, I think its my new mantra!
    Kate x

  7. March 29, 2018 / 10:03 pm

    These days are definitely not wasted. I think that everyone needs to relax and just take time out. I really treasure those days where I can just stay home and do nothing.

  8. March 30, 2018 / 7:39 am

    I couldn’t agree more with this Charlene! Taking time out to just relax and do nothing is so important, you need to recharge those batteries after all! Being busy is great but when it starts to get to you, you do need to take a break! I’m glad you’re learning not to beat yourself up, you deserve that down time! You work really hard and need to put your feet up from time to time!

    Abbey ❤️

  9. alohalola
    March 31, 2018 / 10:08 am

    This is so so true and I relate so much (once again!) Sometimes my MH won’t allow me to get off the couch and I criticise and shame myself because I am not being productive, when it feels the rest of the world is being so. But having days to wind down or even to sit still and reflect is so important. There’s no shame in it at all x x x

  10. April 2, 2018 / 4:57 pm

    I totally agree. People make it seem like you miss out on so much when you stay in, but so much can be accomplished with the right mindset! Great post, very encouraging.

  11. April 2, 2018 / 7:38 pm

    I absolutely adore this post! Sometimes I think it’s just me that thinks this way but lately I am reminding myself that if I feel like I need a day doing nothing I should have a day doing nothing. Really well written and honest post 🙂 xx

  12. April 3, 2018 / 12:59 pm

    Couldn’t agree more! It’s so easy to get caught up in trying to take part in everything and never miss out on an opportunity that people often forget that rest is just as important! I rarely take a full day but I really appreciate the days where you can spend an excessively long time in bed, just because, and then go back to normal life the next day!

  13. April 3, 2018 / 8:26 pm

    Yes to all of this! It’s hard when on a Monday morning everyone is talking about their weekends full of doing a million things but I know I need time to myself to rest. Xx

  14. April 5, 2018 / 9:01 pm

    Honestly I really needed to read this. I’m constantly anxious and worried that I’m not going to finish work on time, or that my blog is gunna fail if I take time off and it’s awful. Sometimes dragging myself out of bed really is the most difficult thing I have to do in a day – not just because I’m lazy, promise 🙈 You’re so right about us all needing days in doing ‘nothing’ cause having one day a week just to wind down is so beneficial for mental & physical health. Loved this post 🙂

  15. September 10, 2018 / 12:48 am

    Completely agree! For the past couple of weeks I’ve been out and about doing something every single day and I don’t think my body was ready for all that activity! I’ve pretty much been a shut-in this weekend and I already feel rested, rejuvenated, and much healthier!

  16. Julia
    January 5, 2019 / 10:50 pm

    Yes to all of this! For the past few weeks I’ve been forcing myself to get up and get going even when I’ve not had the energy because I’ve been working myself silly. It’s worn me out both physically and mentally, just taking a day off last week and spending it in bed just made me feel all the more better. Loved this post so much because of how true it is!

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