Goals are simply ideas that we want to reach

I wrote a blog post at the end of last year, setting myself some goals for the year ahead (2018), I didn’t manage to smash them all but I did accomplish some. 

I thought, with it being day 6 of blogmas, I would reflect on these goals. I want to let you all know that it is totally fine if you cannot always achieve your ‘goals’; at the end of the day that is all they are. They are goals. 

Often when we set ourselves a goal, we have every intention of making that goal a reality, we tell ourselves that we will do whatever it takes to achieve it. However, this is only a moment in time, next week or a month down the line you might feel entirely different. Your mindset changes. Things happen. We don’t always help ourselves and that’s okay. Goals are goals. They are not meant to put you under pressure or make you be hard on yourself. They are simply ideas that we want to reach. And we will, some day, but it’s not the be all and end all if we don’t.

I set myself goals of hitting a certain following on various platforms by the end of 2018, I had every intention of self-promoting and becoming more involved in things with my online presence, of course I’ve been busy with university work and other things so I didn’t manage to pursue these intentions. Thus contributing to my not hitting my goal. I will not beat myself up about this because hey, life gets in the way sometimes, and after all there are more important things in life than how many followers you’ve got online.

I also set myself goals of going to a dance class this year which didn’t happen. My confidence has went out of the window. Which leads me on to another goal I almost achieved but didn’t. I wanted to learn to love myself, to at least accept myself, and embrace the changes in my body and just be content with it. I began sharing photos on Instagram, with profound captions, and attempting to achieve this goal but I couldn’t. Not really. I felt terrible about myself, and I still do, so this is another goal that went down the pan this year!

I’m not too fussed about not hitting all of my goals this year, I did so much in 2017 that I’m super proud of, that I don’t mind this year being a bit anti-climatic. I’ve been on 4 (5 this weekend) incredible holidays, I’ve travelled to many different countries, and I’ve been excelling my first semester of second year at university. I might not be smashing the following count I wanted, or embracing myself, or doing the things I intended on doing: but I’m getting by. I’m content.

And I have some exciting plans and ‘goals’ for 2019, so watch this space, and I’ll maybe just share them with you. Remember, there is absolutely no pressure in setting yourself goals, they are for you and you alone. Even if you share them online with folk it doesn’t mean you are under any obligation to see them through. Sometimes setting yourself goals just makes you feel good, and we all want to feel good, so I say do it! You’ve got nothing to lose! 🙂



  1. December 6, 2018 / 8:56 pm

    Hello lovely,
    It’s okay if you haven’t ticked everything off. There is always next year and it sounds like you made lots of lovely memories this year which is a year well spent!
    Love Casey
    http://casestreetx.blogspot.co.uk 💕🌸

  2. December 6, 2018 / 9:29 pm

    It’s okay if we didn’t manage to reach all of our goals, but it matters that we tried, or even better, that we started. Because, if we started, we are on our way to reach them, just not as soon as we hoped we would.

  3. December 6, 2018 / 9:38 pm

    This was such a lovely read, it also released a lot of pressure I had on myself. It encouraged me to reflect on what amazing things I had achieved over the past couple months, that might be small, but are big to me.

    Empowering to say the least <3

    Nola x


  4. December 8, 2018 / 7:50 pm

    Such a wonderful, powerful post! I think we sometimes get so focused on achieving those goals, that we forget that life isn’t always about checking a box. Also, like you said, we tend to be hard on ourselves and feel bad when we don’t achieve our goals.

    Thank you for this post!

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